Passion: The Power Behind Your Vision

Your passion is the wind and wings behind your dreams and vision. Your passion energizes and affirms your vision and gives meaning to your purpose. Your passion is the life within your soul and it strengthens your desire to succeed at whatsoever you do. Your passion is a big deal to your vision, dreams, and relationships because it keeps hope alive.

Your passion is your expression and it uniquely defines you. It enhances your ability to focus on what really matters.

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Taking a look at how our passion affects your relationship, it’s clear that there is no relationship that can thrive without passion. All relationship works when passion is involved; be it business, marital, spiritual or platonic relationships. It’s not a surprise that even in the holy book it is clearly stated we can only seek God when we are totally consumed with loving Him; that is passion.

Passion in a relationship keeps the flame alive. Nobody seeks what they are not passionate about. Once passion runs out in a relationship, the relationship would most likely crash except the fire of passion is rekindled again. We are all created as passionate beings with passion in our soul and it is given for expression. Once there is no room created for expression, passion fizzles out naturally and it is redirected to something more productive or responsive. You have the responsibility to protect your passion and make sure it applied and expressed positively to things that matter because your passion keeps you focused on your dreams and relationships.

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Your passion is the air by which your relationship thrives and soars. Your passion spurs you to dream, hope, give, sacrifice, succeed, etc.
When passion dies in a relationship the desire to continue with a person or a group of people automatically leaves too. Take a look at where you are now; how passionate are you about your spouse, your career, your friendships your relationship with God? The list is endless. Are you merely managing or surviving in that relationship? Do you need to reignite your passion again?

When you are passionate about something, it’s almost infectious; it can be felt by the next person because it creates an energy that has great depth of intensity to create change.

The amazing truth about passion is that it can be reignited again if you make an effort to dream, focus and light the fire again.
Fall-outs do happen between couples, bosses and their staff, business partners and friends when the passion that fuels the relationship is left to dry out. We keep passion alive when we engage the power of focus to pursue our goals. Distraction is a big enemy of passion.  You must find what you are passionate about to stay alive and relevant; you must pursue passion intentionally and apply it in a positive way.  Stay passionate, stay focused, stay positive and stay connected. Rekindle the fire and find your passion!

 

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Vision, purpose and passion. Relationship road map.

Your passion is the wind and wings behind your dreams and vision. Your passion energizes and affirms your vision and gives meaning to your purpose. Your passion is the life within your soul and it strengthens your desire to succeed at whatsoever you do. Your passion is a big deal to your vision, dreams, and relationships because it keeps hope alive.. Your passion is your expression and it uniquely defines you. It enhances your ability to focus on what really matters.
Taking a look at how our passion affects our relationship, it’s clear that there is no relationship that can thrive without passion. All relationship works when passion is involved, be it business, marital, spiritual or platonic relationships. It’s not a surprise that even in the holy book it is clearly stated we can only seek God when we are totally consumed with loving Him, now that is passion.
Passion in a relationship keeps the flame alive. Nobody seeks what they are not passionate about. Once passion runs out in a relationship , the relationship would most likely crash except the fire of passion is rekindled again. We are all created as passionate beings with passion in our soul and it is given for expression. Once there is no room created for expression, passion fizzles out naturally and it is redirected to something more productive or responsive. You have the responsibility to protect your passion and make sure it applied and expressed positively to things that matter because your passion keeps you focused on your dreams and relationships.
Your passion is the air on which your relationship thrives and soars. Your passion spurs you to dream, hope, give, sacrifice, succeed e.t.c .
When passion dies in a relationship the desire to continue with a person or a group of people automatically leaves too. Take a look at where you are now , how passionate are you about your spouse, your career, your friendships your relationship with God, the list is endless. Are you merely managing or surviving in that relationship? Do you need to reignite your passion again.
When you are passionate about something it’s almost infectious, it can be felt by the next person because it creates an energy that has great depth of intensity to create change.
The amazing truth about passion is that it can be re ignited again, if you make an effort to dream, focus and light the fire again,
Fall outs do happen between couples,bosses and their staffs, business partners and friends when the passion that fuels the relationship is left to drift away. We keep passion alive when we engage the power of focus to pursue our goals. Distraction is a big enemy of passion . You must find what you are passionate about to stay alive and relevant, you must pursue passion intentionally and apply it in a positive way. Stay passionate, stay focused ,stay positive and stay connected. Rekindle the fire and find your passion!

Vision- purpose- passion: Relationship Road Map (II)

Purpose is important to all relationships because it puts all things in proper perspective. Once purpose is taken out of any relationship it loses its essence and ceases to bring fulfillment. For instance getting married is not a means in itself, it should be a means to an end and the end is what establishes the purpose of marriage. People do not become business partners just for the funVision Couple of being partners. There is always a common course and a bigger force that keeps such unions intact.

Purpose in every relationship affirms its relevance because it gives clarity to every vision. Your vision without purpose is incomplete because purpose is what gives your vision direction. It’s of utmost importance to understand, review and re-examine your purpose on a regular basis. You must always be able to answer the questions about why you are where you are, what you want and stand to achieve. Establishing the purpose of your relationship keeps you focused and aids you in making good choices like the choice of a spouse, a friend, business partners or an appropriate staff. Choices made without purpose leads to frustration, like finding yourself on the wrong team, friendship with people who do not uphold or share your core values, or finding yourself married to a spouse who does not share your vision of passion.

Properly defined purpose makes sure you engage the company of those who are going in the same direction as you. Purpose helps you set and achieve the right goals. When purpose is properly defined it transcends all obstacles and remains your tangible catalyst for success. Your purpose keeps you on the path of discipline, it’s stronger than your feelings and emotion and it gives you the reason to go on against all odds. Your purpose keeps you in pursuit of your vision with passion. Redefine your purpose today, by relating and engaging with purpose. Let your life’s choices be purpose driven.

Vision-Purpose-Passion: Relationship Road-Map

Every part we take in life is always intertwined with the vision, purpose and passion in our soul. There is hardly anyone successful in any area of life that does not have these three major factors to contend with. They are very important because they do have a strong effect on the core of the choices we make and this in turn determines where we eventually end up in life.
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When it comes to the issue of relationships, your vision, purpose and passion must be a major determinant of what you choose, where you start, where you are now and where you intend to go. Your vision gives you sight and help you to see beyond your immediate needs. It creates a perfect picture of where you want to go.
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Your vision should inform and inspire your choices. As regards relationship, it should help you choose the right man, woman, friends, team and group to work out your vision with. Unfortunately most people just walk into all sorts of relationships with what can be termed as temporary blindness and when they eventually face the consequences of not having a vision at all or not seeing correctly the temporary blindness would clear off. It’s always a case of rude awakening, when faced with the reality of haven taken a wrong turn. Your vision should determine where you go and who you choose to go with you. Every relationship would eventually face the test of time and no relationship is immune to this fact. So do get your vision right to keep your relationship intact. If you start your life’s journey without getting your vision clear and you make a double mistake of getting someone or a group of people on the journey with you, the relationship would eventually hit the rocks.
Your vision is a powerful instrument in getting direction for your relationships. Parties involved in a relationship must both share and understand where their relationship is headed. “When there is no vision, people cast off restrain”, the Good Book says. Your vision would lead you to your purpose. Join me on the next edition as we discuss the place of purpose in our relationships.

Living With a Stranger!

Falling in love is awesome. When you fall in love with someone, it makes your whole five senses come alive, am I right? I am so sure I am. If you have ever fallen in love before, you know it produces an unimaginable energy. There is a feeling of having the ability to accomplish almost anything with that special person in your life. We often see these special people as God’s gift, soul mates, help-meet,  just to name a few. It’s often amazing when two people after few years down the line now become total strangers.Relationship breakdown

I had a conversation recently with a lady who had unresolved issues in her marriage. She claims she still lives with her hubby but they lead separate lives. I asked her if she thinks she was still married to her hubby and she said “yeah some-how”.  It means they do live in the same apartment but they are practically living like neighbors. How do super-lovers become estranged friends or live as strangers? Love in marriage depreciates rapidly when lovers lose the vision, passion and purpose of their relationship. It results in both parties abusing each other. When you lose the perception of what a relationship is worth you lose the essence of it.

When you stop being passionate about your relationship, it means nothing moves you about it anymore. A lover’s voice that uses to tickle you initially now becomes a disturbing noise. Passion dies a natural death once you lose focus of where you were heading in the first place and what you were going to achieve. Distractions on daily basis are inevitable but you have to stay resolute to stay in love and in purpose. This simply means your relationship should be beyond ordinary feelings.  You chose to walk this part because you believed it was priceless. Or perhaps you did not count your cost before you started. Even if this was your case, you can still make the best out of it. Nothing happens by chance. When things are rough you must be determined to weather the storm. You must also understand people change in every relationship as years go by. The lady or guy you married in his or her early twenties has become a fully grown individual, desiring something deeper than what they wanted when they were younger. People change in different ways and phases, due to new experiencesLovers hatecircumstances and exposure over the years. A spouse might do or exhibit some behavioral changes that you might not believe they are capable of.  You need to be able to love your partner through the different phases and changes they might have passed or be passing through. Whatever crisis you face in your relationship can be resolved if it’s not life threatening and both parties involved are willing to work at it. Our crisis is often not the issue but the way we handle and react to them. It would ultimately determine whether your passion stays alive and survive the temporary distraction or dies completely.  Your vision and your purpose keep your passion intact. Do not give up on your passion; you must keep hope alive despite all odds. The stranger in your house can become a friend and a lover if you dare to dream again. When you find the purpose for your relationship you would find passion again. Hope against hope, make peace with yourself and live to love again. Join me on my next blog as we discuss the vision, passion and purpose of our relationship.

Falling In Love with YOU!

love you...  Love is an eternal gift given by the Creator to all mankind. It keeps the whole universe moving and keeps us connected to one another. It is on this account that we often focus on the importance of loving but we hardly focus on the importance of loving ourselves as individuals. The truth about love is that you can only express love to others when you have learnt how to love yourself. Developing the ability to love others is a gift that stems from being able to love yourself. Appreciating who you are makes it a lot easier to appreciate others around you. Those who have low self-esteem issues usually find it difficult to relate with others.  How can you relate well with others when you have not learnt to be comfortable in your own skin. How then can you love yourself?

The first step to falling in love with you is to know who you are and those things that makes you uniquely you. You must know your potentials, capabilities, talents, gifts and your limitations. Be realistic about who you are and come to an understanding that your expressions would always be uniquely yours. Understanding thus should help you dig deep and bring Love pictureinto the limelight all that has been deposited in you at creation. Never try to be someone else or be tempted to live someone else’s dream or run someone else’s race. Always believe in yourself; that you are good at whatever you choose to do. This usually creates a deep seat of confidence and helps you fall in love with who you are on a daily basis. When you operate below your potentials, it leads to self condemnation. The less you under utilize your potentials, the less you see anything good about yourself and the less you love yourself.
Love you 2 Stretch to your full potential, love everything about you, and believe you are fantastic. The more you believe this the more you develop the confidence to reach out to others. You can only give and share what you have. Loving yourself creates the energy to love others.
Another factor to loving yourself is having a good self-esteem. People only validate what you affirm about yourself. Having a good self-esteem is not about being proud or having a false image of who you are. It’s a realistic evaluation of what your strength and weaknesses are. A good level of self-esteem leads to self-respect and self-confidence. When you exhibit this, people naturally gravitate towards you. Both are virtues that speak without you saying a word. It shows you have a good knowledge of how unique and special you are.

Part of developing good self-esteem is to love the way you look physically. If you do not love what you see in the mirror every morning then do something about it. If you need to work on your weight, make sure you take up some exercises and dieting to keep fit. Make sure you look the way you love to see yourself. Paying attention to your wardrobe too has a great deal of impact on your self confidence. When you make an effort to look good and you love who you see in your mirror, it has a way of transmitting what you feel about yourself to others. It matters to love what you see on a daily basis.
Celebrating yourself also helps you to fall in love with who you are. You celebrate yourself  by pursuing your dreams and passion. Celebrate your achievements and the products of the impact you have made so far. No one else can do what you do; you are unique in every way possible. If you find it difficult to celebrate yourself, you can’t celebrate others. Those who find it hard to see something good about themselves cannot see something good about others.
Loving yourself also stems from the ability to recognize your weaknesses and limitations. Once you know what you are capable of handling you won’t over labour or make unrealistic demands on yourself. Having this in view keeps your life free from unnecessary stress. It helps you to avoid pitfalls that would expose your weaknesses while you focus on your strength. Loving yourself is the best gift you can give to you. It’s the only way to remain relevant and impactful to the people around you.
You also develop a good level of love for who you are when you are one hundred percent positive about yourself regardless of other people’s opinion as important as that may be. Whatever anybody feels about you is their opinion and it should not be the basis for how you feel about yourself. There is often error in human judgment because we often see things the way we are. Only you can know yourself better, so stay positive and true to yourself. Always remember what you see and think about yourself is what you would manifest. Love yourself and treat yourself to a lot of gracefulness and thoughtfulness. Be mindful of who you are physically, spiritually, emotionally and mentally because this is what determines the total you.

Treat yourself to a lot of love. You need it.

COMMUNICATION AS A BIG DEAL IN BUILDING STRONG RELATIONSHIPS

Communication is a big deal when it comes to building a good foundation for our relationships. Good communication is the major strength of every relationship; no relationship thrives without it. Once the flow of communication breaks down in any relationship, be it a marital relationship,  business relationship or even relationships between friends, it’s always difficult to make progress beyond that level.  The lack of good communication leads to a gradual decay of a relationship that started on a good note. It’s a major lifeline between two people. When the line of communication is left open in a relationship, there is hardly any issue that cannot be resolved.

Communication is made up of the spoken word, body language and good listening ability. Good communication comes with the ability to perfectly present and pass across your message to others in a way that can be tinu blogseffortlessly understood.  Good communication adds some spice to every relationship and makes conflict resolution very easy.

This brings us to the point of asking how we can truly communicate. True communication involves respecting other people’s point of view even when we have a contrary opinion; understanding that everyone has a right to their own perception and should be given a room for self expression. Good communication gives space for feedback from parties involved in the communication process.

Good communication also involves good listening ability. Few people truly know how to listen while others are talking. Good listening ability comes with rapt attention, calmness and an objective appraisal of the issue being discussed without having a ready-made response. Developing a good listening ability is a major key to building good communication and a good relationship. We listen not only to spoken words but to words that are not spoken as well, which are mostly passed a crossed through body languages and silent expressions by actions. There are times people speak clearly through various expressions like eye contacts, touch, actions, etc. A good communicator must be a good observer.

There is an adage that says “action speaks louder than words.” Body language is a major factor in communicating effectively. It’s speaking without words and it’s often louder and clearer than the spoken words. During the process of communicating, our body language gives away the sincerity of our words. We communicate effectively when our spoken words correlate with our body language.
Good communication is also fostered by avoiding being presumptuous and being too assuming. Exhibiting a trait of assumption in our relationships makes us take others for granted. Assumption makes us relate with others based on our perception about issues without facts.  It’s a state of always assuming others should understand and know better.  This is about setting high standards and expectations for others without giving room for human errors. This leads us to breaking and crossing relationship boundaries which is always tough to fix once broken. The state of being presumptuous in communicating is taking others for granted and responding to others by reacting without facts. Good communication comes by having all facts fully established before passing on to others and giving deep consideration to other people’s feelings.

Becoming a good communicator is a skill that can be learnt and it’s an art that can be developed if we make conscious efforts. Our relationships are more enjoyable when we communicate well with others. Communication is a two way thing. He that must have a friend must first make himself friendly. We must seek to understand others then we would be understood. Words are powerful and they convey powerful images once spoken. We should be sure our words express exactly what we mean to communicate to others. We would enjoy our relationships better when we communicate constructively.