The Pillars of Relationship

From my observation, it is obvious that the rate of divorce is becoming very much alarming.  Keeps me wondering why relationships are deteriorating so fast this days. Everyone claims to have fallen in love  Pillars

before taking their vows at the altar.

I am sure at the point of exchanging their vows, young lovers often felt the experience is the best thing that could ever happen to them. Why do most of these relationships eventually turn out to be nightmares? It keeps me wondering what could have happened to the profession of undying love by two love birds to one another after few months and even many years of marriage.  It’s as bad as seeing young couples who just got married  in less than three months filing for divorce or those who have been together for over twenty five years seeking to go their separate ways.  I  strongly believe all these stems from foundational issues.

When the foundation of a building is weak due to lack of proper structure, we all know it cannot retain any solid structure.  It’s a matter of time before the building would eventually come crashing down; when a building’s foundation is weak, an eventual collapse is inevitable. This brings me to the point of looking closely at the principles upon which solid relationships  thrives and stays strong forever.  In the next few weeks, we would be looking at few principles that keeps beautiful relationships alive.

Commitment is a very strong requirement for a lasting relationship. The human nature naturally finds it hard to commit.  Once a situation changes, the natural human instinct desires to move into a more comfortable zone.  Commitment cannot stand on its own; it needs maturity and purpose to survive.   Maturity as regards commitment is the ability to stay put whether things are good or bad as long as it’s not life threatening. Wherever you find true commitment, convenience is thrown out of the window.  Purpose is also a big deal to commitment.  A relationship that does not have a clear purpose or laid out plan is doomed to fail; no matter how long it takes. Purpose gives commitment a meaning; no one commits to a mission that has no clear destination.  Relationships with a clear purpose or destination naturally attracts commitment and determination by all parties  involved.  Everyone involved would have a strong desire to maintain , preserve  and  protect the relationship at all cost. With the belief in their heart that this relationship must not and cannot fail.

In the light of the background laid above, I strongly believe purpose strengthens commitment in relationships. What is the purpose of your relationship and what is its destination?  Your ability to answer this question clearly will help to redefine  and re-evaluate why you are in the relationship in the first place and why you should remain there. The purpose of our relationship with one another must go beyond ordinary feelings; it must be bigger than all parties involved.  The ability to evaluate  our purpose for relating, choosing our  partners and friends helps us put our relationship in proper perspective.  It gives us the strong resolve to stay committed at all cost even when the tides are high.


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